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Chapter 1: Bad News and Good News About Bullying
Chapter 2: Some Facts About Bullying
Chapter 3: What Makes Bullying Hard to Stop?
Chapter 4: Managing Emotional Triggers to Prevent Explosions
Chapter 5: Target Denial to Avoid Trouble
Chapter 6: Conflict Resolution and Interventions to Solve Problems
Chapter 7: Self-Protection Skills to Avoid Being Pushed, Tripped, Bumped, Hit, Kicked, or Shoved
Chapter 8: Getting Adults to Get Help
Chapter 9: Bully Physical Self-Defense Techniques
Chapter 10: Coping With Shunning, Exclusion, and Gossip
Chapter 11: Being Brave to Set Boundaries and Advocate
Chapter 12: Peer Pressure Tactics
Chapter 13: Preventing Sexual Harassment
Chapter 14: Other Solutions to Problems With Peer
Chapter 15: Stopping Cyber-Bullying
Chapter 16: Practice as a Management Tool for Unsafe, Disrespectful Behavior
Chapter 17: Common Questions About Bullying
Chapter 18: Building Strong "People Safety" Skills
Chapter 19: Tools for Creating a United Front Against Bullying

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“WOW!!!! This is a must read for any parent, teacher, school administrator ― any responsible adult who works with children and cares about both their physical AND emotional safety. It is well-organized, describing step by step what to do and say. I absolutely loved it.”

“Bullying - What Adults Need to Know and Do to Keep Kids Safe is both entertaining while providing information regarding how to deal with bullying in a proactive and sustainable way. The techniques, practices, and methods covered throughout the book can be applied to all walks of life, not just those who are victims of bullying.”

“Assertive empowerment to help break the cycle of bullying. The book includes examples of verbal responses for standing up to all kinds of bullying situations. I appreciate the emphasis on learning a skill, then practicing it to help it become engrained.”

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Irene van der Zande

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Kidpower Founder and Executive Irene van der Zande is a master at teaching safety through stories and practices and at inspiring others to do the same. Her child protection and personal safety expertise has been featured by USA Today, CNN, Today Moms, the LA Times, and The Wall Street Journal. Publications include: cartoon-illustrated Kidpower Safety Comics and Kidpower Teaching Books curriculum; Bullying: What Adults Need to Know and Do to Keep Kids Safe; the Relationship Safety Skills Handbook for Teens and Adults; Earliest Teachable Moment: Personal Safety for Babies, Toddlers, and Preschoolers; The Kidpower Book for Caring Adults: Personal Safety, Self-Protection, Confidence, and Advocacy for Young People, and the Amazon Best Seller Doing Right by Our Kids: Protecting Child Safety at All Levels.

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What is human trafficking? How can we keep kids safe?

by Irene van der Zande

Human trafficking is the use of emotional, legal, or economic coercion or of physical violence to force someone to provide labor or sexual services.

Sexual trafficking can include requiring prostitution, photos, or videos from someone against their will. When this happens with children or teens, this becomes an extreme form of child sexual abuse.

Labor trafficking can include forcing people to work without the rights, compensation, and freedom of choice that they deserve.
Trafficking is modern-day slavery.
Who is at risk?

Trafficking can happen to anyone, no matter their age, gender, race, socioeconomic status, or abilities. Human trafficking can happen anywhere in the world, in every country and every kind of community.

Some groups face higher risks, especially those whose fundamental needs for community, safety, security, and shelter are not being met. These groups include people who:

are lonely or isolated are in an unsafe living situation or experiencing homelessness
are in a vulnerable position due to their immigration status
don't have enough resources to get enough to eat, feed their loved ones, or get an education
struggle with addiction to alcohol or drugs
have disabilities that make it harder for them to recognize unsafe behavior or set boundaries

How does trafficking happen?

Often when people think of trafficking, they think of someone being kidnapped and trapped by violence.

Although this does happen, most people are coerced into trafficking situations, especially at first, without being aware of what is happening, often lured by promises of love, safety, shelter, or security.

Traffickers are very skilled at very quickly creating a sense of connection, building trust, and developing dependence with a vulnerable individual.

Even worse, instead of being strangers, some trafficking perpetrators are people the victim knows, such as friends, employers, partners, and even family.

When a trafficking perpetrator is engaging with a potential victim, they use a set of techniques called "grooming."

The grooming process often starts with the offer of something the victim needs or wants, such as love, shelter, or money. This tactic works by triggering very strong positive emotions. For example: You have run away from home and a friendly, kind person who buys you lunch and offers you a place to stay seems like a savior.

You are bored with school and feel very excited when you suddenly meet a sweet nice-looking guy who tells you how beautiful you are and that you can make a lot of money modeling.

You are struggling with relationships with your parents or friends. When you connect online with a supportive community or potential romantic partner who showers you with love and affection and promises to take you away to a better life, this may seem like a dream come true.

You are struggling financially and feel incredibly relieved to finally have an offer of stable income even though you don't know much about the employer.

These feelings can make it very hard to think clearly, especially for more vulnerable people.

Red Flags

Remember that if something seems too good to be true, it probably is. We can recognize for ourselves and teach young people to watch out for red flags such as someone who is:

Trying to get you to undermine your current relationships by encouraging you to complain, magnifying your grievances instead of helping you to gain perspective, and vilifying people who are trying to help you.

Offering you jobs that will pay a lot of money with no or little relevant experience - especially where housing and transport are covered, descriptions of what the job involves are unclear, there are no clear and transparent contracts, or the employer makes immigration promises that are unlikely to be possible.

Romantic relationships that move too fast, where someone instantly tries make you feel as if you have found the love of your life because you are so special and they care about you so much.

Isolating you from your friends, family, or community, either physically such as leaving home, or emotionally, such as keeping secrets about who you are seeing and what you are doing together.

Offering favors and then, after the fact, demanding something in return. This tactic works by making people feel like they owe the perpetrator. However, you do not owe anything to someone if you did not agree beforehand the terms of the trade. Even if you did agree the terms of a trade, you deserve to be able to change your mind if you later realize that what you agreed to do is unsafe or unethical.

Ignoring your right to privacy even though they are not your responsible adults by demanding to have access to your phone or relentlessly stalking your social media.

Trying to convince you that they are all you need, and acting hurt or angry when you express your desire for time with other people.

Trying to convince you to physically leave home and stay with them.

What can we do to protect our kids

As adults, we need to be prepared to:

Manage our own fears and emotional triggers - so we can communicate positively and stay connected with the young people in our care even when they might be very rejecting.

Recognize potential danger signs - such as when a child or teen seems very isolated, becomes withdrawn, loses interest in activities, suddenly has money or expensive possessions, or has an older boyfriend or girlfriend, spends a lot of time online and becomes very secretive about what they are doing.

Model and teach self-protection skills to young people in ways that are age-appropriate, effective, and emotionally safe.

Intervene when we suspect trafficking or any kind of abuse.

Find the right kind of help.

Here are psychological and personal safety self-protection skills we can use ourselves and teach our kids:

How to recognize and resist unsafe behaviors, situations, and relationships

How to know the difference between someone acting friendly or being a true friend

How to develop positive healthy relationships and to use positive communication to prevent and resolve conflict
How to notice and manage our emotional triggers so that our positive or negative feelings don't stop us from making safe and wise choices.

How to be persistent in setting powerful, respectful, appropriate boundaries even if someone we care about gets upset

How to pay attention to warning signs that someone might be trying to trick or pressure us into doing something that might be against our best interests.

How to get away from a person or group that might be involved in trafficking and get to safety

How to use self-defense skills to escape from someone who is threatening us

How to be very persistent in getting help from busy or impatient adults

How to stay safe online and on social media

Want to learn how to teach these skills? Check out our website at Kidpower.org or contact us at safety@kidpower.org

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Children need a strong
adult attachment.

Everyone has the right
to feel safe.

Children need a strong
adult attachment.

Boundary setting skills are essential for healthy relationships.

Everyone has the right
to feel safe.

What is human trafficking? How can we keep kids safe?

by Irene van der Zande